EVERY Weight loss plan on the market will work for you if you have 2 beliefs:

Weight loss plans are not published if they have never been successful and yet most of the diets out there fail more people than they serve (yes sadly even Fill Your Cup.) The 2 thoughts that determine your success are:

#1) I believe this process can and will work for me.

#2) I am worth the effort.

If those two thoughts ring loudly in your ears every minute of the day, they will become beliefs. When those two thoughts are big, you can feel them in your heart and in your gut. Then your weight loss process will be successful.

When people fail at their plan it is because one (or usually both) of those beliefs are faltering. People failing, have gotten more weak in their belief than their appetite is strong.

Stay strong. Believe in your process. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Fill Your Cup.

Hunger Is Associated with Advantageous Decision Making: SEE STUDY HERE…

On first glance I thought this article would prove delayed gratification or holding hunger longer helps you make better decisions.  It talks about that and goes deeper, it says highly sensitive people with a large and accute appetites make the best decisions.  So for our purposes it proves that the detailed body awareness of Pilates helps with decision making.  For years I have said that Pilates makes a person sensitive enough to know the difference between hunger and empty, (the nuance of appetite)  this article explains why.  Thanks Rebecca Clyde for finding it!

Hunger Is Associated with Advantageous Decision Making

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Your inside connections are infinitely more important than your outside connections.

While teaching a pilates reformer class at 6 am today I heard myself say  “If you don’t work the inside, (I was referencing pelvic floor and postural muscles) you can expect less from the outside.”  I believe if you don’t have a clear sense of your inner core it is hard to do any core work. In other words, if your deep core isn’t active and alive – the outside is simply a shell, sometimes a misshapen shell.

The same is true for our headspace, if you don’t have a clear sense of your beliefs and values how can you possibly live by them? What does your shell mean and how easily can it be misshapen?

With Fill Your Cup weight loss, appetite is the core. There are hundreds of weight loss plans and formulas, all of them work if you can muster up the self-control to have an appropriate appetite. The reverse is true, none of them work if you can’t.

So, go inside a moment to the dark, deep center of your being? What do you believe about your body? And how do you wear that belief? Remember, that converting to new beliefs is possible if you want to.

Fill Your Cup.

Does doing your best compete with being your best?

You know when you are at your best.  You feel great you roll with the punches your sense of humor is easy.  You are likely well rested, have eaten moderate amounts of healthy foods, exercised and loved.  Being your best is a lovely thing.

Think back to when you studied language.  The word “are” has its root form in the infinitive to be – I am, you are, she/he/it is, and we are.

To BE our best, takes some time and attention.  Time we could spend doing.  Doing our jobs, doing our laundry, doing the shopping and doing our busy lives until we are no longer being our best.

Can doing and being, complement or must they compete?

I hope they can complement since functional life skills like keeping a roof over our head, food on our table and finding inspiring ways to spend our energy (a job) is critical to our survival.  Those to do activities are important.  But being at peace, sleeping well, taking deep breaths, enjoying good food, sensing our space, meditating, all the ways we re-charge so to speak, are the being activities.  When we invest in being, the doing seems less strained.

Take a moment and list what you do in a single day and then list how you invest in being. What percentage of your day consumes each list?  Does that work for your values?

Most people I work with on weight loss over eat, when they over do.  I ask again, does doing your best compete with being your best?

Quitting: a choice

Quitting is a choice.

People without conviction choose it.

Why have you started toward this goal and does it really matter to you? Most people I’ve met who miss their goals get distracted, lose interest and make excuses. If you get past your immediate feelings, and you decide the goal you had matters to you then it’s worth growing up for.

Put your childish ADD, instant gratification excuses aside and develop your tenacity. You are worth it! Unless this goal really doesn’t matter and then deliberately change directions. I’ve yet to meet a weight loss client who says. “The 15 lbs I wanted to lose I’ve decided to keep them and wear them with pride.” But, maybe one day?

Choose wisely. Fill Your Cup.

Naturally Skinny is really a matter of perspective.

As soon as I typed that I knew there would be mis-understandings by the Oprah contingency saying, “Yup, that’s right, skinny is whenever you feel good in your own skin.” I don’t think that’s the real problem with Americans today. I was just at the Water Park and lots of people are feeling way too comfortable in their own skin. It’s absurd the parts spilling out of swimwear this time of year. Some self-awareness and a full-length mirror would go along way to the cure for diabetes.

Naturally skinny people have a different perspective about food than naturally heavy people. Skinny people eat whatever they want, and they feel like they eat a lot. But what they really want to eat is totally different than what naturally heavy people want to eat. Where skinny people gloat at how much they eat (and I’ve watched and journal them it’s not that much food over a week’s time) heavy people feel deprived when they don’t get to gorge themselves.

What and how much food you want to consume, that is your appetite. Yes, eating too many calories makes you fat. And wanting too many calories keeps you fat. For a while you can discipline yourself into a diet plan that constricts your meals to certain foods and meal frequencies but why you want so many calories, Appetite is what you are left with long after your enthusiasm for your fad diet has worn off.

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Black Hat?

A new client told me today that I missed my calling as a “Black Hat.” That’s the drill sergeant in jump school for the U.S. Air Force.

It is surprising because I don’t see myself as a tough woman at all. I don’t make people push a lot of weight or sprint hills, I yell sparingly. Typically shouting in elation when a client makes progress, not in ridicule. I see myself as a reflective person trying to get it right. Making an effort every day to live authentically and help others do the same.

Perhaps drill sergeants ask tough questions and that is where we overlap. I ask my clients and you – if you regularly read this blog, the tough questions. For example, Is it more important for you to be comfortable or thin? If the answer is the former then pull on your sweat pants and blousy top and be happy. If that’s not the right answer for you then have the courage and dignity to change. You are worth the effort, investment and even discomfort to be who you want to be, skin to soul. Fill Your Cup.

(thanks Ila – Butterfly Beauties Photography for capturing my “black hat” intensity before the storm.)

About weight loss books

It’s a cold drizzly day in Park City and I’m browsing through my significant other’s bookshelf where he has several “weight loss lifestyle books.” Before we started dating Andy (that’s his name) had been trying to lose some weight.

Andy’s books are similar to ones I have read before. There is a section on inspiration, some rules of diet, and trends in nutrition followed by an exercise section of at home fitness routines that remind me of primary school PE class. Then there’s the grid of what you must do each day, how many servings you must eat and what you must stock in your pantry.

The whole thing makes me want to rebel and bite into a snickers bar and I’m not all that triggered or emotional about weight loss. I’m happy in my body. I can’t imagine how these books affect someone who is searching. Most weight loss approaches, just like these books’, are dogmatic and didactic. I kind of want to do something totally opposite just to prove I can live like I want and be thin. The truth is that no plan is absolute. There is not a one and only solution to permanent weight loss. No one size fits all. Sorry.

The only rule I can commit to is if you don’t make the path of your own volition it will never stick for the long term. I had a student say, “I can contain my portions and eat 1200 calories a day and look great for a while but its not sustainable for me.” I explained to her “That is because you never really got a grip on your own appetite. When you are clear about what, why and how you feed yourself you can sustain the body you want.” I had a magazine interview me about the best exercise for weight loss. They were disappointed when I answered, “Whatever you like – because I can’t come to your house at 6 am and tie your tennis shoes.”

Wouldn’t it be fantastic to get to a place of acceptance where the calories you want matched the image you like to see of yourself? Yes that can absolutely happen, but only if it’s your own plan. No one can do it for you. I can coach you and ask questions to guide, but you have to answer those questions and commit to yourself. Fill Your Cup.

“She had a desire to reach perfection in an oriental way, meaning developing her potentialities.” -Theodore Zeldin (An Intimate History of Humanity)

He continues, “Fame is worth striving for because it gives you a wider choice of interesting people to meet, but for no other purpose. Money is useful to widen your opportunities, but it is dangerous, because rich people tend to meet only other rich people, worrying about their wealth and doing the same things.”

This is from a book I’m reading called An Intimate History of Humanity. What is more intimate and human than hunger? This time of year people shed their winter coats and decide it’s time again to tame their winter hunger and find a summer body. So what is the undercurrent of your dream size? What is your physical “potentiality?” Or fill in the blank to be lighter is worth while to me because…..

When you can answer those questions in a way that is meaningful to you the answers fuel your discipline. It is not easy to be honest about how much your eating, what your appetite is really about and why you look the way you do. Only you can manifest your potential in any area of life, go for it… Fill Your Cup.

Appetite: Spirit or Skin?

Appetite. I’m reviewing my assessment of the immensely human experience of appetite. Is it related to deep issues like compulsions, addictions, desires, discernment and the longings of the soul? Or is it really more in the category of entertainment?

Are we bored with our over booked and under appreciated lives, bored chasing the dream? Do our dreams seem like a worthy chase when we’ve had enough sleep, but… maybe not today? What can be better than a mocachinnolattefristo to sweetly caffeinate us into a sensory overload? Are adult jobs of paperwork and laundry challenging our ADD and the only thing we can think of, for a worthy distraction is food? It can’t be simply “I don’t have anything good on Netflicks so I’ll have a box of thin mints.”

It must be more. As a society we are bigger and fatter than ever before in history. Perhaps our appetite gone wild is a spiritual void? There are reasons to believe we are in spiritual crisis as a society. After all, religion is magnetic it, infiltrates politics (despite our constitution) and polarizes our conversations. I feel a chasm between those who have faith and those who have logic. There’s not a clear place in the middle.

I search for spiritual satiation and I don’t always get there. I read one too many plaques at the dinosaur museum to believe in the brand of faith I was raised with, so creating my own now. Then there’s the fact that yoga has had exponential growth while Pilates has only had moderate growth in the last 10 years. It’s a safe conclusion that there’s a market niche beyond the stretch; maybe it’s in the prayer.

What is appetite’s role in your life? How deep does it go? Is it simple and on the surface? I’m asking you and several other friends, so stay tuned to comments and posts and as always, Fill Your Cup.