EVERY Weight loss plan on the market will work for you if you have 2 beliefs:

Weight loss plans are not published if they have never been successful and yet most of the diets out there fail more people than they serve (yes sadly even Fill Your Cup.) The 2 thoughts that determine your success are:

#1) I believe this process can and will work for me.

#2) I am worth the effort.

If those two thoughts ring loudly in your ears every minute of the day, they will become beliefs. When those two thoughts are big, you can feel them in your heart and in your gut. Then your weight loss process will be successful.

When people fail at their plan it is because one (or usually both) of those beliefs are faltering. People failing, have gotten more weak in their belief than their appetite is strong.

Stay strong. Believe in your process. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Fill Your Cup.

Congratulations on getting over your fear of getting fat.

This link inspired a bit of controversy with in me and I’ve been deciding how to write about it for a few weeks.  Please watch. What do you see or feel?

www.mindbodygreen.com/0-17099/this-inspiring-fitness-video-celebrates-real-women-working-out-yes.html

There’s a part of me that applauds this and says right on!  Keep moving no matter what you look like on the outside.  How you feel is more important.  I decided what bothered me was not knowing if this video was an early step on a woman’s upward trend toward health or is the video condoning a lifestyle for complacency about weight?

If this is video is one of the first steps out of obesity then, lets say it again, RIGHT ON!  But if  it is saying fatness is my way of life and I accept it then, WAKE UP!  Obesity is a lifestyle that will kill you.  Cancer, diabetes, and heart disease all kill the obese more than everyone else.  And yet, obesity is now the norm, 66% of Americans are on their way to a morbidity statistic.  There are macro concerns like healthcare costs but I’m more interested in what chosing to be obese, (an overfed version of the human form) which everyone knows is unhealthy, does to your headspace.

Hey lady in the Video, Is the exercise you demonstrate with passion step one of your multi-step plan to health and wellness?  Or should we say with Somecards…

Fat somecard

In an effort to improve self-esteem, we have lost integrity.  “You are okay and I’m ok” but we have the hope and inner strength to be more than ok if we will enact some discipline.  With out a full night’s sleep, or careful attention, it is easy to confuse self-acceptance with complacency.  If you are living a life that demonstrates your values then you should carry self-acceptance.  You are living with integrity and honoring yourself, you deserve it.

If you aren’t then have the discipline and self-respect to change.  Our meaningful challenges are not ones we conquer in a week or a month or even a year, our meaningful challenges are those we struggle with and work on most of our lives. In the work, we make progress.  If you find yourself running into a challenge (time after time) and then accepting yourself as you are and giving up the work, you are complacent.   Self acceptance isn’t possible from there because you have no integrity.

Live, as you believe.  You are worth it.  Fill Your Cup.

 

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Book Signing this weekend in Park City, UT

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“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”   – JOSEPH CAMPBEL.

It takes a courageous type of soul to talk about weight management before Thanksgiving, when the weather is cold and all you really want is a mocha and a muffin.  But you’ll feel and look better when the sweater eventually comes off if you come explore appetite and life balance with me this Sunday at Atticus at 10 am, I’ll be there with my honey latte, no one will judge your order, so sip what you like.   I can’t wait to meet you.  Love,  Julie

Classic Black Dress

Most fund-raisers and award functions in Southern California and Arizona where I’ve lived have cocktail attire black tie suggested as a dress code any more.  In my experience only rarely, is formal black tie really required.  It’s always lovely to see your man in a tux but hemlines are flexible.

 

Once upon a time in 1992 I was browsing in the Sacks Fifth Ave, in Pasadena after my shift at California Pizza Kitchen.  I was barely a woman at 20 years old and I fell in love with a classic black gown. It was the most beautiful fabric but started at a 4 digit price.  That price had been slashed with red pen into an amount that I made in a month’s time.  Since I was young and passionate I bought it!  I had a sorority winter formal upcoming and it was lovely.  It was the first gown I’d bought with my own money.  It elegantly presented the classic feminine physique so I have kept it all these years.

When Andy invited me to a southern black tie party for the National Space Club’s 25th Anniversary dinner, I pulled out my beautiful black gown.  I decided it needed and update so a quick nip and tuck in alterations with Danese Creations, Scylvia a woman who has more style in her pinkie than all the women on my block. (and I live in a stylish neighborhood!)  I wore my classic black dress, this week (22 years later) with delight.  I had to lighten my cup for 3 weeks before the party but wearing my college dress was fair compensation for giving up snacks and full meals.

Julie & Rocket

 

“….like the lasting remnant of a summer strawberry.”

“….like the lasting remnant of a summer strawberry.”

Those of you who’ve taken classes with me for years know I read the paper. I read the Sunday New York Times from my tub and it takes me until Thursday night.

There’s a great article by Amanda Fortini in the magazine this week about lipstick. (By “the magazine” I mean The New York Times Style Magazine.) Maybe because I wasn’t allowed to wear red lipstick in high school, I think red lipstick is the height of woman-hood. I am, like the author unlikely to paint on showy make up every day. No one’s mistaken me for a glamour girl or a diva, in day to day life. Yet the line in Breakfast at Tiffany’s where Audrey Hepburn says, “hand me my purse darling a girl can’t read that kind of thing with out her lipstick” stirs my inner Aphrodite and inspires all the bliss of being a woman.

But I am all 42 years into woman hood now with the wrinkles to prove I’ve done hard things and I’ve laughed a lot more than I’ve cringed. I have lines in my skin and I wonder how red lipstick may bleed into my lip line like the raspy voiced, chain smoking piano teacher I had as a kid? (She had red lines of her mouth etching outward like a mini rivers of blood flowing from a dangerous sea.) Do I need a primer? a plumper? I need a plan!

The plan: layer layer layer: bases, lip liners and pigments and then blot blot, fading out the color in order to look berry stained rather than painted on. The formulas of new lipsticks bleed less but they still sell bases. Your finished look is beautiful prepared for an evening of LIFE, eating drinking kissing and smiling. Not to slick or perfect (whew) I’m in – all in!

I bought a Wallgreens option for $30 Sally Hansen primer Covergirl liner (Passion) and Covergirl Blastfipstick (Vixen) as well as a Nordstrom option fro $65 Kisskiss lip lift and a Nars (Fire down below) I think I’ll wear them all at once. Why not?

Living lean is as much about filling your cup with life, sometimes its about what fills you up away apart from meals, for me, today, it’s lipstick – what is your appetite for life craving? What fills your cup?

 

piano pic w lips

8 lbs. vs the Whopper

Today in class two students who have been part of the Fill Your Cup tribe from inception were talking about a weight loss goal. One woman said, in the next 6 weeks she wanted to lose 8 lbs and so she got diet pills so she could still eat fast food cheeseburgers. The other replied, “You know you get one or the other, 8 lbs off or the whopper.”

It was so simple and clear and we all laughed at the obvious conclusion. You get thin or you get full, not both. So which one matters more?

The next element to the morning that made me smile is the tribe itself.  Your community can help support your cause.  Think about your family, friends, the classes you take – do they inspire a light living life? What would YOUR friends say in a similar situation? Are they going to tell you want is comfortable to hear, everyone deserves a Whopper sometimes hunnie or will they tell you the truth? 8 lbs vs. whopper – you decides who wins.

(PS it’s worth mentioning eventually, you will feel satisfied and satiated eating less – give yourself a month to adjust.)

Naturally Skinny is really a matter of perspective.

As soon as I typed that I knew there would be mis-understandings by the Oprah contingency saying, “Yup, that’s right, skinny is whenever you feel good in your own skin.” I don’t think that’s the real problem with Americans today. I was just at the Water Park and lots of people are feeling way too comfortable in their own skin. It’s absurd the parts spilling out of swimwear this time of year. Some self-awareness and a full-length mirror would go along way to the cure for diabetes.

Naturally skinny people have a different perspective about food than naturally heavy people. Skinny people eat whatever they want, and they feel like they eat a lot. But what they really want to eat is totally different than what naturally heavy people want to eat. Where skinny people gloat at how much they eat (and I’ve watched and journal them it’s not that much food over a week’s time) heavy people feel deprived when they don’t get to gorge themselves.

What and how much food you want to consume, that is your appetite. Yes, eating too many calories makes you fat. And wanting too many calories keeps you fat. For a while you can discipline yourself into a diet plan that constricts your meals to certain foods and meal frequencies but why you want so many calories, Appetite is what you are left with long after your enthusiasm for your fad diet has worn off.

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Black Hat?

A new client told me today that I missed my calling as a “Black Hat.” That’s the drill sergeant in jump school for the U.S. Air Force.

It is surprising because I don’t see myself as a tough woman at all. I don’t make people push a lot of weight or sprint hills, I yell sparingly. Typically shouting in elation when a client makes progress, not in ridicule. I see myself as a reflective person trying to get it right. Making an effort every day to live authentically and help others do the same.

Perhaps drill sergeants ask tough questions and that is where we overlap. I ask my clients and you – if you regularly read this blog, the tough questions. For example, Is it more important for you to be comfortable or thin? If the answer is the former then pull on your sweat pants and blousy top and be happy. If that’s not the right answer for you then have the courage and dignity to change. You are worth the effort, investment and even discomfort to be who you want to be, skin to soul. Fill Your Cup.

(thanks Ila – Butterfly Beauties Photography for capturing my “black hat” intensity before the storm.)

About weight loss books

It’s a cold drizzly day in Park City and I’m browsing through my significant other’s bookshelf where he has several “weight loss lifestyle books.” Before we started dating Andy (that’s his name) had been trying to lose some weight.

Andy’s books are similar to ones I have read before. There is a section on inspiration, some rules of diet, and trends in nutrition followed by an exercise section of at home fitness routines that remind me of primary school PE class. Then there’s the grid of what you must do each day, how many servings you must eat and what you must stock in your pantry.

The whole thing makes me want to rebel and bite into a snickers bar and I’m not all that triggered or emotional about weight loss. I’m happy in my body. I can’t imagine how these books affect someone who is searching. Most weight loss approaches, just like these books’, are dogmatic and didactic. I kind of want to do something totally opposite just to prove I can live like I want and be thin. The truth is that no plan is absolute. There is not a one and only solution to permanent weight loss. No one size fits all. Sorry.

The only rule I can commit to is if you don’t make the path of your own volition it will never stick for the long term. I had a student say, “I can contain my portions and eat 1200 calories a day and look great for a while but its not sustainable for me.” I explained to her “That is because you never really got a grip on your own appetite. When you are clear about what, why and how you feed yourself you can sustain the body you want.” I had a magazine interview me about the best exercise for weight loss. They were disappointed when I answered, “Whatever you like – because I can’t come to your house at 6 am and tie your tennis shoes.”

Wouldn’t it be fantastic to get to a place of acceptance where the calories you want matched the image you like to see of yourself? Yes that can absolutely happen, but only if it’s your own plan. No one can do it for you. I can coach you and ask questions to guide, but you have to answer those questions and commit to yourself. Fill Your Cup.