Easy-Bliss 1, 2, 3

Once over a decade ago, I was sad. I was maxed out exhausted with little children and I was trying to be a good mother, teacher, laundry manager, PTA activist, family archivist/publicist, a teacher and friend.

It wasn’t Zoloft, Wellbutrin, prayer or meditation that saved me. (not that any of those things are bad) I made a new habit that pulled me out of my sadness.

I decided to evaluate every activity required in life and put them into 3 categories:

  1. Inspiring
  2. Restoring
  3. Draining

In category 1) I found teaching and playing catch in the park, walking with a friend or working in my garden.

In category 2) I found writing, cooking, laundry and putting the kids to sleep.

In category 3) I found cleaning floors, prepping the taxes and meetings.

I decided to outsource or limit with extreme rigor all activities in category 3. Like any habit, the more your practice it the more precise you become at it.  After a decade of practice,  I’m completely repelled by anything in category 3.  I am not afraid of change and that helps me extract myself from situations that qualify as excessively draining.  I’m also not a control freak, for example you may clean my floor any way you want to just don’t ask me to take time away from my category one or two commitments for it.

I have more energy and bliss than ever.

Is it realistic?  Not all the time, I still have to prepare taxes, and the occasional meeting cannot be avoided.  This habit cut some activities that I valued out of my life, but I adjusted and filled my life with experiences I also value and inspire me.  My energy level is high and my love of life is even higher. So the habit is worth it to me.

In Fill Your Cup I repeat, eat only what feels sustaining – leave out the junk. My life choices align in similar principle. Bring commitments to your life that inspire you, leave out the junk and you will live a blissful, inspired life.

Do as I do

I teach pilates classes and have individual core training clients as well as coaching weight loss.  My clients are business owners, great moms and dads, attentive partners and community members.  I would say ALL of my clients are leaders in their own professions.

The leadership that is often most difficult to present are the habits – the subtle differences in the choices we make.  What are your habits?  Do you swear under your breath (yes) do you disrespect people you don’t even know? (yes) do you snack mindlessly disrespecting your own digestion? (yes) There are no perfect humans and I’m not suggesting perfection is the goal.

But maybe your leadership could include identifying 3-5 habits that you show your community you do really well.  Make your priorities visible.  Tell them I’m taking time away from you so I can take care of my body – want to come along?

Show them: This is how I Fill My Cup.

 

“You cant beat what you cant block” – Adidas Football US

 

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It’s Super Bowl 50 and I’m snuggled with my 11 year old on the couch flipping through twitter during the penalties and I see Adidas Football posts “You can’t beat what you can’t block.”   Ah-Ha!! In football speak THAT is the key to weight loss!   If you can block your hunger, like an offensively lineman, you’ll have the opening to score into your dream body! BE tough! Hold your blocks!

Fatness Kills – Part 2

If you believe that  (Fatness kills) and you decide it’s worth it to change your lifestyle consider these 4 – hardest of your life, but totally worth the effort – steps:

1) Dream a new you.

2) Dig deep in the emotional challenges that lie under the habits keeping you from your dream.

3) Work hard.

4) Keep going it takes lots of practice.

As a society we don’t practice or exercise our tenacity through difficulty very often or very well.  We quit our diets, we quit or relationships, and the most heartbreaking thing to me is that we quit on our own dreams.

When Erica of my last post, the Runner’s World cover girl was six years old did she dream she’d have the thighs of a linebacker when she was a grown up lady? I don’t think so. So why does she promote this reality that isn’t her dream?

Because it’s so damn hard to live in alignment with your dreams.

It’s hard for her in ways I can’t possibly know.  But I will tell you this, living a life true to my dreams is hard in ways I never expected it would be.

There are challenges that you don’t see coming, things you never imagined would change do, and you have to hold on to what you believe in like it is life or death.

When you waiver from a life in-line with your dream (and everyone does for a moment) collect your head, accept the work it takes and go back to the dream. Amidst the challenge you have to know for certain what your dream looks like, feels like and smells like so when the cupcakes are delivered (or how ever things get hard for you) you can stay true to your dream and the life that aligns with it.

Don’t give up on your dreams or yourself.  Remember exactly what you dreamed in the first place and attach your discipline to that dream!

Congratulations on getting over your fear of getting fat.

This link inspired a bit of controversy with in me and I’ve been deciding how to write about it for a few weeks.  Please watch. What do you see or feel?

www.mindbodygreen.com/0-17099/this-inspiring-fitness-video-celebrates-real-women-working-out-yes.html

There’s a part of me that applauds this and says right on!  Keep moving no matter what you look like on the outside.  How you feel is more important.  I decided what bothered me was not knowing if this video was an early step on a woman’s upward trend toward health or is the video condoning a lifestyle for complacency about weight?

If this is video is one of the first steps out of obesity then, lets say it again, RIGHT ON!  But if  it is saying fatness is my way of life and I accept it then, WAKE UP!  Obesity is a lifestyle that will kill you.  Cancer, diabetes, and heart disease all kill the obese more than everyone else.  And yet, obesity is now the norm, 66% of Americans are on their way to a morbidity statistic.  There are macro concerns like healthcare costs but I’m more interested in what chosing to be obese, (an overfed version of the human form) which everyone knows is unhealthy, does to your headspace.

Hey lady in the Video, Is the exercise you demonstrate with passion step one of your multi-step plan to health and wellness?  Or should we say with Somecards…

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In an effort to improve self-esteem, we have lost integrity.  “You are okay and I’m ok” but we have the hope and inner strength to be more than ok if we will enact some discipline.  With out a full night’s sleep, or careful attention, it is easy to confuse self-acceptance with complacency.  If you are living a life that demonstrates your values then you should carry self-acceptance.  You are living with integrity and honoring yourself, you deserve it.

If you aren’t then have the discipline and self-respect to change.  Our meaningful challenges are not ones we conquer in a week or a month or even a year, our meaningful challenges are those we struggle with and work on most of our lives. In the work, we make progress.  If you find yourself running into a challenge (time after time) and then accepting yourself as you are and giving up the work, you are complacent.   Self acceptance isn’t possible from there because you have no integrity.

Live, as you believe.  You are worth it.  Fill Your Cup.

 

For Mother’s of Boys

Energetic mother, I have been thinking about you all day, I was you. I was a protective mom of one toddler age boy, once upon a time. I worried that the forces of the world were going to infect my perfect precious child. I worried about baby talk, gender toys, paint, pesticides, vaccines, racism, sexism, egocentricsm and a dozen other “isms” and then… my boy (or his two brothers that followed after) knocked out their teeth by force. My whole and perfect boys, they broke their bones. They rode bikes with no helmets, no hands, then no feet. The boys have skateboarded off mountains and off the roof.   I was called for concussion alerts by the ski patrol, the school nurses and several coaches. I have heard from principles and the police. (“There’s a man on the roof with a rifle!”…”uh, no …there’s a tall boy with a BB gun keeping rabbits out of his mother’s garden”)

So after some years and some tears while mothering I realize there are forces in the world to be concerned about, but there is a bigger force with in each of my sons. The fire and force of a young man’s passion, curiosity and aggressive nature you can guide for a while but with an ever-lightening touch.   After babyhood is gone most mothers of boys come around to this: We provide cuddles and calories and cheer loudly from the stands!

Love you my sons and my sister’s out there who are raising young men….

Julie and the boys2014

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Hunger Is Associated with Advantageous Decision Making: SEE STUDY HERE…

On first glance I thought this article would prove delayed gratification or holding hunger longer helps you make better decisions.  It talks about that and goes deeper, it says highly sensitive people with a large and accute appetites make the best decisions.  So for our purposes it proves that the detailed body awareness of Pilates helps with decision making.  For years I have said that Pilates makes a person sensitive enough to know the difference between hunger and empty, (the nuance of appetite)  this article explains why.  Thanks Rebecca Clyde for finding it!

Hunger Is Associated with Advantageous Decision Making

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Your inside connections are infinitely more important than your outside connections.

While teaching a pilates reformer class at 6 am today I heard myself say  “If you don’t work the inside, (I was referencing pelvic floor and postural muscles) you can expect less from the outside.”  I believe if you don’t have a clear sense of your inner core it is hard to do any core work. In other words, if your deep core isn’t active and alive – the outside is simply a shell, sometimes a misshapen shell.

The same is true for our headspace, if you don’t have a clear sense of your beliefs and values how can you possibly live by them? What does your shell mean and how easily can it be misshapen?

With Fill Your Cup weight loss, appetite is the core. There are hundreds of weight loss plans and formulas, all of them work if you can muster up the self-control to have an appropriate appetite. The reverse is true, none of them work if you can’t.

So, go inside a moment to the dark, deep center of your being? What do you believe about your body? And how do you wear that belief? Remember, that converting to new beliefs is possible if you want to.

Fill Your Cup.

10 GOOD Choices on the ready!!

“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”   – J.K. Rowling

With almost every weight loss coaching client there is a conversation early in our work about a binge eating situation usually when they have downtime in life.   Since I don’t believe in “free foods or “cheat days” to shove their discomfort into I had to direct people to good choices.  It is important that the choices are good for them, for their moments where the indulging is eminent and so I ask for a list.

What are 10 things you can do all by yourself to make yourself calm/happy/full/fulfilled?

For me today (it changes often) here’s my list of good choices rather than taking down time to snack:

1)   Spend time improving my garden

2)   Chopping vegetables to make something yummy, for later

3)   Check the Linked In of my cousin who is rebranding herself and make a positive notes in cyber space

4)  Listen to my best friends’ incredibly talented daughter’s  podcast http://www.rrpod.com/hilarious-online-reviews-out-loud-podcast and laugh till my side aches (hey it’s core work)

5)   Put pictures in my children’s photo albums

6)   Go for a walk

7)   Make a new playlist

8)   Clean a drawer with the intention of giving 5 items to goodwill

9)   Leave a positive voicemail for a friend

10)  Read one of the 4 books my husband is sure I will love!  (and I will, I just haven’t made time…)

 What are 10 things you can do all by yourself to make yourself calm/happy/full/fulfilled?

Go out there and make good choices! Fill Your Cup….