What is your story? Jennie Sikora 2011 Chapter 1

January 3, 2011

Instead of thinking about all the positive self-help thinking that is out there, especially this time of year, I read something that struck me about how life is a story. I was intrigued. Simply put, we are just characters in our own story. We can make our stories true or not. We can create or eliminate characters in our story. For some reason this resonated with me. Do I want to keep fighting the same battles and having my story turn out the same? Do I want the same people in my story? Can I make myself the hero instead of the victim?

Before I go on, let me summarize my story up to this point. My name is Jennie and I like, no I love food. It is my friend, my social companion, my enemy, my comforter and any other “person” you can connect to. Food and my weight have been the main characters in my story. I am an emotional eater, food addict, whatever the label is, I am it. I have struggled with it my whole life. I am a competitive person and usually when I set a goal I will accomplish it. If you tell me to run a marathon, I will train, plan and do it. If you tell me to do 2 hour spin classes, I will set my mind and do it. If I want a promotion, I will do what needs to be done and get my promotion. However, if you tell me that I can think of myself as thin and have control over this battle with weight or if you tell me to cut back on my portions, I will say okay and then worry on how I am going to accomplish it and then sooner than later… I blow it, eat more than I need to and then follow with the regret, the blame, and the extra workouts to make up for it. My chapters are starting to get boring.

I can’t rewrite my story because you can’t go back. Regret is a horrible monster. But instead of rewriting, I simply will change my story. I wrote that I have always struggled with food, and yes that may be true, but in my new story, I can challenge the internal battle. In my new story, I will make me the main character instead of food and the battle. I will focus on the greatness I am achieving no matter how small or large instead of the negative or what I am not doing. I will add new characters that can help me build meaning to my story.

I have goals that I would like to achieve this year – goals are part of my story, and this time the story cannot end. That has happened to me before, and then I have to start over. Instead, I am learning to build from my prior chapters. My new story is a lifestyle change.

Goals for this chapter of my story:
Practice the Fill Your Cup Lifestyle every meal.
By April, be 2 sizes smaller
Cardio-4X per week Core and strength training 3-5X per week.

Over the next few months, I will be sharing my story with you in this blog. I challenge you to whole heartedly think about what your story has been up to this point in your life and what you are going to do with that story. Share your thoughts by clicking “comments” to the left.

Jennie

Fill Your Cup founder/author shares her beliefs about balance.

* Tell all your friends about this blog and website, we learn from eachother’s experiences and from sharing our own. If you’re new, Fill Your Cup is a lifestyle for slim and conscious living. Explore the website www.fill-your-cup.com there are free core exercise clips and an audio sample of the book Fill Your Cup. It’s never too late to start feeling lighter! You’re right on track, jump in right now, bring a friend on this journey with you reading the blogs, following me and other keepers of the cup on Twitter (click here) or sign up here to receive email updates (click here)

Visit Tea Time and Fill Your Cup

“Strange how a teapot can represent at the same time the comforts of solitude and the pleasures of company.” ~Author Unknown

If you are in AZ try to come to this wonderful event. Feel the pleasure of other people who are interested in Fill Your Cup and learn how tea can be a space for meditation and self-care that helps restore your life balance. Tea can be a tonic for both appetite and anxiety.

WE

My close friend is dating a man who has started asking her to move-in with him – with what we used to call the “assumptive close.” He drops “we” into daily meal planning and furniture purchases. “We can take this to our home one day,” or “We should get this gadget to make better steaks.” She is sensitive and attentive yet this verbal que is not enough for her to start packing.

There is something special in the formality of a request. “Please join me for dinner?” or “Will you come to this class that I think you will love?” or “Will you move in and share this home with me.” It is more than a meal or a class or even a roof over your head. It is an invitation to share your very self. A place for joining your mind (maybe body and spirit too) with another person, during that shared time or space.

I realize I am like her lover, with his “We” I assume the blog readers are in the same tribe as I, you all get it – you know that I want to include you in the process of staying slim. Yet, perhaps I haven’t made the formal request:

Will you join me in this space of mind-share? Will you join the quest to feel lighter, to move every day, to blog your thoughts-challenges and successes, tweet your meals and share this journey to live light and true to your self?

There is something stabilizing in We. I have a hunch that the more of us there are in the We, the more stabilizing it will feel. The more people you know who keep the cup the more “normal” that cup will feel. You are endorsed by other people’s reflection of your beautiful transformation and they are endorsed seeing themselves in you.

There may be struggles with holding your own little cup but you are not in it alone. We support you!

* Tell all your friends about this blog and website, we learn from eachother’s experiences and from sharing our own. If you’re new, Fill Your Cup is a lifestyle for slim and conscious living. Explore the website www.fill-your-cup.com there are free core exercise clips and an audio sample of the book Fill Your Cup. It’s never too late to start feeling lighter! You’re right on track, jump in right now, bring a friend on this journey with you reading the blogs, following me and other keepers of the cup on Twitter (click here) or sign up here to receive email updates (click here)

Message from a Keeper of the Cup:

Hi Julie,

I wanted to say thank you again for writing the book Fill Your Cup and to let you know that I read it and l really liked it.

I like that you say such nice words about food and you give people hope to enjoy and savor meals, but at the same time you make it very clear that the reality of “hunger” and being hungry is part of the lifestyle. I often feel that I an not particularly hungry, but I can eat… (So, I shouldn’t wonder why the last 5 lb are not going anywhere?) … So then I just eat. … And I guess I overeat simply because the food is in front of my face for too long. At home I do good with portion control, but in public and at other people’s homes, it’s very difficult.

Oh, and also wanted to tell you that when I leave the gym in the morning, I am ravenous. I am lucky that I have my breakfast pre-made and packed from the night before; because on days I go out for breakfast (less and less these days) I can eat the whole restaurant in one sitting.

Love the Book! Wonderful – Congratulations!!!

Inge

PS. For snacks, do you eat raw sweet potatoes slices?

Dear Inge,

I am so glad you enjoyed the book – now please share it (and the blog) with your friends!

The last 5 lbs are in the details, keeping your cup and making clean healthy choices. Although I love sweet potatoes in your cup realize that the snacks come out of your lunch or dinner cup. Keep herbal tea with honey, Kombucha or the Myrtle Apple Cider Brew (I am sipping now) as an option for the afternoon hunger solution.

In other people’s homes, its tricky you don’t want to offend the hostess by not eating large portions. Here are some tips:
1. Serve yourself if possible
2. Know your cup, when you are at home practice with food both in your CUP and then put your portion on a plate to see how much food it is plated
3. Complement the hostess on the flavor, texture and taste of the meal and she wont likely notice how much you ate.
4. Arrive hydrated drink plenty of water before you go out so you may feel less like snacking
5. Engage fully in conversations with the people who are at the party

In Restaurants:

1. Order from the appetizer menu
2. Share a meal
3. Take half (or more) home for later
4. Eat slowly

Keep up the great work. Your body will feel better lighter. It is so worth it!

Love, Julie

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Ignore Everybody – Part 3

I am still buzzing, a little from reading “Ignore Everybody –and 39 Other Keys to creativity” by Hugh MacLeod this week.

Another ah-haa moment happened on page 2 when Hugh said, “a big idea will change you – your friends may love you, but they may not want you to change.” He also said “they might not have any incentive to see you change” which is also important.

Community is really big for weight loss. As much as our friends love us, they may feel if we change maybe it will change their place in our lives – they have accepted us as we are now. Change can be unnerving. What incentive does your best friend, sister, spouse, brother, have in your waistline?

If you don’t have a community of people who are really whole-heartedly supportive — I mean with out any reservation, entirely on your side to becoming leaner. Your road is harder than it needs to be. Find friends who you commit to losing weight with, exercise with, friends who share your goals.

This is where I love Twitter. People who are “keeping the cup” tweet (that’s sending a message from their profile set up at www.twitter.com) what they eat, I see that as I follow them and I tweet what I eat and they follow me, cup by cup all day. It’s easy! If you text message (most of us use a cell phone anyway) you can send out your tweet through text.

The act of journaling your meals is enhanced by connecting your choices with a community of people who are also keeping their meals in their cup. It brings you a sense of consciousness to what you put into your mouth.

We also sometimes tweet our exercise or something we found inspiring or exasperating in our day. What is filling or depleting our metaphorical cup is deeply tied to success with our choices in food and beverage. So TWEET WHAT YOU EAT!

We are here for you – your community – your new friends. We are in your corner! Fill Your Cup!

Who Fills thier Cup?

The Fill my Cup lifestyle works best for people who want to lose 5-20 pounds, people who want to feel better about how they look in (and out of) their clothes, and people who care about creating a mind and body connection with their hunger and their bodies. People absolutely flourish in this plan, who want to live their life rather than obsess over what they should eat, and want to feel instead, what they truly crave and enjoy every bite.

If you want to feel your inside dreams align with your body and if you aren’t afraid to look inside to get there, you are going to love this plan! Live in excellence, Fill Your Cup!

Start your Twitter – Tweet what you eat!

I have many requests from people who want to know what I am Filling my Cup with so, I will be twittering my diet. I know it will be a challenge to have so much accountability!  🙂 I promise you honesty even if I make a bad choice every now and then. Now in return for join me, I also want to hear what YOU are filling YOUR cup with – twitter your food in… we can support each other and see how far technology takes us.  HAPPY NEW YEAR!!  2009 will be fulfilling and fabulous! Follow J_fillyourcup, Tweet what you eat!