I know many times this has been true. Most times, if you include emotional illness. Make time. You are worth it. Fill Your Cup
This link inspired a bit of controversy with in me and I’ve been deciding how to write about it for a few weeks. Please watch. What do you see or feel?
There’s a part of me that applauds this and says right on! Keep moving no matter what you look like on the outside. How you feel is more important. I decided what bothered me was not knowing if this video was an early step on a woman’s upward trend toward health or is the video condoning a lifestyle for complacency about weight?
If this is video is one of the first steps out of obesity then, lets say it again, RIGHT ON! But if it is saying fatness is my way of life and I accept it then, WAKE UP! Obesity is a lifestyle that will kill you. Cancer, diabetes, and heart disease all kill the obese more than everyone else. And yet, obesity is now the norm, 66% of Americans are on their way to a morbidity statistic. There are macro concerns like healthcare costs but I’m more interested in what chosing to be obese, (an overfed version of the human form) which everyone knows is unhealthy, does to your headspace.
Hey lady in the Video, Is the exercise you demonstrate with passion step one of your multi-step plan to health and wellness? Or should we say with Somecards…
In an effort to improve self-esteem, we have lost integrity. “You are okay and I’m ok” but we have the hope and inner strength to be more than ok if we will enact some discipline. With out a full night’s sleep, or careful attention, it is easy to confuse self-acceptance with complacency. If you are living a life that demonstrates your values then you should carry self-acceptance. You are living with integrity and honoring yourself, you deserve it.
If you aren’t then have the discipline and self-respect to change. Our meaningful challenges are not ones we conquer in a week or a month or even a year, our meaningful challenges are those we struggle with and work on most of our lives. In the work, we make progress. If you find yourself running into a challenge (time after time) and then accepting yourself as you are and giving up the work, you are complacent. Self acceptance isn’t possible from there because you have no integrity.
Live, as you believe. You are worth it. Fill Your Cup.
On first glance I thought this article would prove delayed gratification or holding hunger longer helps you make better decisions. It talks about that and goes deeper, it says highly sensitive people with a large and accute appetites make the best decisions. So for our purposes it proves that the detailed body awareness of Pilates helps with decision making. For years I have said that Pilates makes a person sensitive enough to know the difference between hunger and empty, (the nuance of appetite) this article explains why. Thanks Rebecca Clyde for finding it!
CLICK on the title above to read the article!
While teaching a pilates reformer class at 6 am today I heard myself say “If you don’t work the inside, (I was referencing pelvic floor and postural muscles) you can expect less from the outside.” I believe if you don’t have a clear sense of your inner core it is hard to do any core work. In other words, if your deep core isn’t active and alive – the outside is simply a shell, sometimes a misshapen shell.
The same is true for our headspace, if you don’t have a clear sense of your beliefs and values how can you possibly live by them? What does your shell mean and how easily can it be misshapen?
With Fill Your Cup weight loss, appetite is the core. There are hundreds of weight loss plans and formulas, all of them work if you can muster up the self-control to have an appropriate appetite. The reverse is true, none of them work if you can’t.
So, go inside a moment to the dark, deep center of your being? What do you believe about your body? And how do you wear that belief? Remember, that converting to new beliefs is possible if you want to.
Fill Your Cup.
“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” – J.K. Rowling
With almost every weight loss coaching client there is a conversation early in our work about a binge eating situation usually when they have downtime in life. Since I don’t believe in “free foods or “cheat days” to shove their discomfort into I had to direct people to good choices. It is important that the choices are good for them, for their moments where the indulging is eminent and so I ask for a list.
What are 10 things you can do all by yourself to make yourself calm/happy/full/fulfilled?
For me today (it changes often) here’s my list of good choices rather than taking down time to snack:
1) Spend time improving my garden
2) Chopping vegetables to make something yummy, for later
3) Check the Linked In of my cousin who is rebranding herself and make a positive notes in cyber space
4) Listen to my best friends’ incredibly talented daughter’s podcast http://www.rrpod.com/hilarious-online-reviews-out-loud-podcast and laugh till my side aches (hey it’s core work)
5) Put pictures in my children’s photo albums
6) Go for a walk
7) Make a new playlist
8) Clean a drawer with the intention of giving 5 items to goodwill
9) Leave a positive voicemail for a friend
10) Read one of the 4 books my husband is sure I will love! (and I will, I just haven’t made time…)
What are 10 things you can do all by yourself to make yourself calm/happy/full/fulfilled?
Go out there and make good choices! Fill Your Cup….
One of my favorite students came into the mat class today and told me of her neck pain. I replied, “The simple solution to a pain in the neck is to keep your chin up” “how metaphorical!” another student replied.
It is bio mechanically sound, if you keep your head balanced on top of your shoulders, your neck muscles won’t fatigue as quickly.
It’s also true, that if we bring our perspective on life up a notch, lots of pain will dissipate.
Just a few hours later I was speaking to my son about his last days of Biology in summer school. His study plan for the final had none of the skills I hoped he’d demonstrate. My chin sank, my shoulders hunched in frustration and then my neck hurt. I scolded and scoffed, and then my stomach hurt. It took about 10 minutes and I realized I could choose to look up. I could elect to elevate my headspace. I don’t really know all he’s done in preparation since he’s at school for 5-7 hours a day and spends half his free time at his dad’s house, I reasoned. More importantly if your own mother looses faith in you, that’s more of an issue with the faith of the mother. Well, since I am she, I can affect that piece a great deal.
I looked up.
My neck released. Jared and I printed notes from the website he needed and made a plan for organization.
All in one magical day… Neck pain and the metaphor that fixes it came into consciousness.
It was the last day I could use the Kale I bought at the Farmers Market last weekend. It had started to wilt in the crisper, I took the small bunch of Kale rinsed it in the sink and chopped the kale with my kitchen scissors, I added half of a red onion diced and 3 cloves of fresh garlic. I added a splash of water and olive oil to attempt a cross between steam and sauté for the mix. When the color popped on the Kale and it was deep green I put it into the cup then using the leftover olive oil in the skillet I scrambled an egg for protein on top of my semi-salad-sauté with a shake of garlic salt. It took less than 10 min to make!
Small Bunch of Kale
Half red onion diced
1 TBS Minced garlic
One Scrambled Egg
Dash of Garlic Salt on top!
You know when you are at your best. You feel great you roll with the punches your sense of humor is easy. You are likely well rested, have eaten moderate amounts of healthy foods, exercised and loved. Being your best is a lovely thing.
Think back to when you studied language. The word “are” has its root form in the infinitive to be – I am, you are, she/he/it is, and we are.
To BE our best, takes some time and attention. Time we could spend doing. Doing our jobs, doing our laundry, doing the shopping and doing our busy lives until we are no longer being our best.
Can doing and being, complement or must they compete?
I hope they can complement since functional life skills like keeping a roof over our head, food on our table and finding inspiring ways to spend our energy (a job) is critical to our survival. Those to do activities are important. But being at peace, sleeping well, taking deep breaths, enjoying good food, sensing our space, meditating, all the ways we re-charge so to speak, are the being activities. When we invest in being, the doing seems less strained.
Take a moment and list what you do in a single day and then list how you invest in being. What percentage of your day consumes each list? Does that work for your values?
Most people I work with on weight loss over eat, when they over do. I ask again, does doing your best compete with being your best?
Why get married? Because we are more, together than we are side-by-side. I married my deepest love a couple of months ago. I pondered why for months before we decided. And I came to this: Togetherness is deeper than tandem.
Let me back up it hasn’t been as cheery a journey as my Facebook suggests (No one wants to photo document struggle.) I began dating Andy after a year in Divorce Court and a couple of failed relationships that couldn’t withstand the difficult time I was in.
When I attempted to back out of things with Andy in the beginning, sighting all my failures in relationships and entropic life he said, “You know what I do for a living right? I develop design and deploy nuclear weapons, you don’t scare me.”
His clarity and commitment was grounding for me and over the years no matter the challenges in his life or mine, he gets me; he matches my directness, ideals and passion for experiences so together we create amazing moments, spaces and feelings together. I didn’t have to get married for any practical reason, but as I pondered it all I realized, I truly believe in uniting what I feel so deeply on the inside with what I show the world on the outside. I believe that your heart can be worn on your sleeve safely and that beliefs can live from soul through to skin.
In Pilates we teach strength to both the being muscles and the doing muscles. And they are more effective together than they are side by side in supporting the body. What if our being values and our doing values supported each other in a similar way? What if our inner way of being (what we believe, dream, or sense,) supported our daily action all the time?
Most of my frustrating times with anything, weight loss, parenting, jobs or relationships I’ve found my inside (believing, dreaming, sensing) wasn’t married to my outside (doing, working, thinking, behaving)
From the inside out and to have and to hold, love …. I do!