Quick Cup-size Recipe with Kale

It was the last day I could use the Kale I bought at the Farmers Market last weekend.  It had started to wilt in the crisper, I took the small bunch of Kale rinsed it in the sink and chopped the kale with my kitchen scissors, I added half of a red onion diced and 3 cloves of fresh garlic.  I added a splash of water and olive oil to attempt a cross between steam and sauté for the mix.  When the color popped on the Kale and it was deep green I put it into the cup then using the leftover olive oil in the skillet I scrambled an egg for protein on top of my semi-salad-sauté with a shake of garlic salt.  It took less than 10 min to make!photo-blog

Small Bunch of Kale

Half red onion diced

1 TBS Minced garlic

One Scrambled Egg

Dash of Garlic Salt on top!

Does doing your best compete with being your best?

You know when you are at your best.  You feel great you roll with the punches your sense of humor is easy.  You are likely well rested, have eaten moderate amounts of healthy foods, exercised and loved.  Being your best is a lovely thing.

Think back to when you studied language.  The word “are” has its root form in the infinitive to be – I am, you are, she/he/it is, and we are.

To BE our best, takes some time and attention.  Time we could spend doing.  Doing our jobs, doing our laundry, doing the shopping and doing our busy lives until we are no longer being our best.

Can doing and being, complement or must they compete?

I hope they can complement since functional life skills like keeping a roof over our head, food on our table and finding inspiring ways to spend our energy (a job) is critical to our survival.  Those to do activities are important.  But being at peace, sleeping well, taking deep breaths, enjoying good food, sensing our space, meditating, all the ways we re-charge so to speak, are the being activities.  When we invest in being, the doing seems less strained.

Take a moment and list what you do in a single day and then list how you invest in being. What percentage of your day consumes each list?  Does that work for your values?

Most people I work with on weight loss over eat, when they over do.  I ask again, does doing your best compete with being your best?

Marriage: a demonstration of bringing the inside into view

Why get married? Because we are more, together than we are side-by-side.  I married my deepest love a couple of months ago.  I pondered why for months before we decided.  And I came to this:  Togetherness is deeper than tandem.

Let me back up it hasn’t been as cheery a journey as my Facebook suggests (No one wants to photo document struggle.)  I began dating Andy after a year in Divorce Court and a couple of failed relationships that couldn’t withstand the difficult time I was in.

When I attempted to back out of things with Andy in the beginning, sighting all my failures in relationships and entropic life he said, “You know what I do for a living right?  I develop design and deploy nuclear weapons, you don’t scare me.”

His clarity and commitment was grounding for me and over the years no matter the challenges in his life or mine, he gets me; he matches my directness, ideals and passion for experiences so together we create amazing moments, spaces and feelings together.   I didn’t have to get married for any practical reason, but as I pondered it all I realized, I truly believe in uniting what I feel so deeply on the inside with what I show the world on the outside.   I believe that your heart can be worn on your sleeve safely and that beliefs can live from soul through to skin.

In Pilates we teach strength to both the being muscles and the doing muscles.  And they are more effective together than they are side by side in supporting the body.  What if our being values and our doing values supported each other in a similar way? What if our inner way of being (what we believe, dream, or sense,) supported our daily action all the time?

Most of my frustrating times with anything, weight loss, parenting, jobs or relationships I’ve found my inside (believing, dreaming, sensing) wasn’t married to my outside (doing, working, thinking, behaving)

From the inside out and to have and to hold, love …. I do!

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“Suffering is the swiftest steed to redemption.” – Medieval common-phrase

The sad truth is pain avoidance is a bigger motivator than pleasure seeking. So, work with that. If you want to change your body, your health, style, your whatever…. How painful can your imagination make, the idea of being stuck in this situation here f-o-r-e-v-e-r (Can you hear the deep echoing voice?) Sit with that suffering and then redeem yourself!

When I work with a person with cancer, they work hard, they’re all in.   Doing homework isn’t a coaxing thing for a guy with prostate cancer looking toward wearing diapers the rest of his life. He’ll do 20 min of homework not once, but twice a day! The woman getting a flatter tummy before her class reunion isn’t nearly as committed. Why?  The suffering is less.   The humiliation with adult diaper leaking has incredible social pain and being a little chubby at middle age is not only accommodated in our society but also expected.

Find your suffering and you’ll find the courage to develop the self-discipline to Fill Your Cup.

Quitting: a choice

Quitting is a choice.

People without conviction choose it.

Why have you started toward this goal and does it really matter to you? Most people I’ve met who miss their goals get distracted, lose interest and make excuses. If you get past your immediate feelings, and you decide the goal you had matters to you then it’s worth growing up for.

Put your childish ADD, instant gratification excuses aside and develop your tenacity. You are worth it! Unless this goal really doesn’t matter and then deliberately change directions. I’ve yet to meet a weight loss client who says. “The 15 lbs I wanted to lose I’ve decided to keep them and wear them with pride.” But, maybe one day?

Choose wisely. Fill Your Cup.

Book Signing this weekend in Park City, UT

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“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”   – JOSEPH CAMPBEL.

It takes a courageous type of soul to talk about weight management before Thanksgiving, when the weather is cold and all you really want is a mocha and a muffin.  But you’ll feel and look better when the sweater eventually comes off if you come explore appetite and life balance with me this Sunday at Atticus at 10 am, I’ll be there with my honey latte, no one will judge your order, so sip what you like.   I can’t wait to meet you.  Love,  Julie

“Not what we have, but what we enjoy constitutes our abundance.”- Epicurus

To explain portion control, I’ve used the New York City closet analogy a lot. Maybe because most of my clients are women, but most people, male or female seem to understand.

When you have a small closet you only keep the clothes that fit really well.  I’ve had big closets and small closets but I’ve always had items I enjoyed in them.  Even if the closet is very small you have what you cherish. Even in lean years with small closets, I still get out of the house pretty often wearing my favorite things, looking pretty stylish and happy. (Ironically, I may not be troubled by sorting through less ideal choices.)

So with your smaller portion take the time to notice what you really enjoy – what makes your heart swell and your eyes twinkle.  If you only allow yourself to consume the cup of your two hands amount of food (your small closet) what do you pick?

If your lunch doesn’t have the heart swelling affect, maybe wait until a strong craving for what you really enjoy comes to you.  Enjoy your abundance – Fill Your Cup!

“Healthy Choice Alternative”

I saw a magazine headline titled “Healthy Choice Alternatives.”   I looked at the list there were mustardy bread-less ideas for fast food.   Then tips omitting this flavorful thing from a recipe, or buying the low fat alternative of that.

How about this alternative? Don’t satiate your appetite and see if you can determine why you are so hungry?  You just ate a few hours ago.  Accept the feelings that come up and hold on to the discipline it takes to choose to keep your mouth and stomach empty.   If you really can’t stay hungry an extra hour or two and eat modesty, well suffer (and I mean truly agonize) over the consequences of being over full or bloated so you remember next time you want to over eat.  I hope you’ll chose to avoid the suffering, and you’ll find the strength to reign in your appetite.

It’s not easy, but it’s the most reasonable grown up way around the “alternatives.”

What helps you keep up your discipline and eat light even when you are hungry?