I know many times this has been true. Most times, if you include emotional illness. Make time. You are worth it. Fill Your Cup
If you believe that (Fatness kills) and you decide it’s worth it to change your lifestyle consider these 4 – hardest of your life, but totally worth the effort – steps:
1) Dream a new you.
2) Dig deep in the emotional challenges that lie under the habits keeping you from your dream.
3) Work hard.
4) Keep going it takes lots of practice.
As a society we don’t practice or exercise our tenacity through difficulty very often or very well. We quit our diets, we quit or relationships, and the most heartbreaking thing to me is that we quit on our own dreams.
When Erica of my last post, the Runner’s World cover girl was six years old did she dream she’d have the thighs of a linebacker when she was a grown up lady? I don’t think so. So why does she promote this reality that isn’t her dream?
Because it’s so damn hard to live in alignment with your dreams.
It’s hard for her in ways I can’t possibly know. But I will tell you this, living a life true to my dreams is hard in ways I never expected it would be.
There are challenges that you don’t see coming, things you never imagined would change do, and you have to hold on to what you believe in like it is life or death.
When you waiver from a life in-line with your dream (and everyone does for a moment) collect your head, accept the work it takes and go back to the dream. Amidst the challenge you have to know for certain what your dream looks like, feels like and smells like so when the cupcakes are delivered (or how ever things get hard for you) you can stay true to your dream and the life that aligns with it.
Don’t give up on your dreams or yourself. Remember exactly what you dreamed in the first place and attach your discipline to that dream!
Did you see the plus size model on the cover of Women’s Running? The message was runners come in all sizes. But glamorizing obesity is absurd – as absurd as glamorizing anorexia but, that is a different post.
Let’s be clear, obesity is an unhealthy choice just like smoking cigarettes and drinking vats of alcohol. It is well documented that longevity and obesity do not go together. Obesity limits the human life span. Fatness kills you.
Eating too much, is an addictive habit that is difficult. Just like smoking and drug use, yet we aren’t putting chain smokers or crack addicts on the covers of fitness magazines.
I get it. Overcoming addiction in any form is hard. It’s painful. It takes personal patience grit and tenacity in their highest forms. I think we form addictions out of a deep need for emotional distraction. Then addictions become habits and habits become unhealthy lifestyles. A jog in some new sneakers isn’t going to change all that distraction > habit > lifestyle we’ve practiced and practiced.
Maybe that’s too deep… Here’s the message: chubby morbidity challenged ladies have just as much right to buy brand new stretchy size 18 clothes as the anorexic, equally morbidity challenged (?), ladies have the right to buy brand new size 0 stretchy clothes.
Cool, that may leave a size 6 or 8 on sale for us.
Weight loss plans are not published if they have never been successful and yet most of the diets out there fail more people than they serve (yes sadly even Fill Your Cup.) The 2 thoughts that determine your success are:
#1) I believe this process can and will work for me.
#2) I am worth the effort.
If those two thoughts ring loudly in your ears every minute of the day, they will become beliefs. When those two thoughts are big, you can feel them in your heart and in your gut. Then your weight loss process will be successful.
When people fail at their plan it is because one (or usually both) of those beliefs are faltering. People failing, have gotten more weak in their belief than their appetite is strong.
Stay strong. Believe in your process. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Fill Your Cup.
This link inspired a bit of controversy with in me and I’ve been deciding how to write about it for a few weeks. Please watch. What do you see or feel?
There’s a part of me that applauds this and says right on! Keep moving no matter what you look like on the outside. How you feel is more important. I decided what bothered me was not knowing if this video was an early step on a woman’s upward trend toward health or is the video condoning a lifestyle for complacency about weight?
If this is video is one of the first steps out of obesity then, lets say it again, RIGHT ON! But if it is saying fatness is my way of life and I accept it then, WAKE UP! Obesity is a lifestyle that will kill you. Cancer, diabetes, and heart disease all kill the obese more than everyone else. And yet, obesity is now the norm, 66% of Americans are on their way to a morbidity statistic. There are macro concerns like healthcare costs but I’m more interested in what chosing to be obese, (an overfed version of the human form) which everyone knows is unhealthy, does to your headspace.
Hey lady in the Video, Is the exercise you demonstrate with passion step one of your multi-step plan to health and wellness? Or should we say with Somecards…
In an effort to improve self-esteem, we have lost integrity. “You are okay and I’m ok” but we have the hope and inner strength to be more than ok if we will enact some discipline. With out a full night’s sleep, or careful attention, it is easy to confuse self-acceptance with complacency. If you are living a life that demonstrates your values then you should carry self-acceptance. You are living with integrity and honoring yourself, you deserve it.
If you aren’t then have the discipline and self-respect to change. Our meaningful challenges are not ones we conquer in a week or a month or even a year, our meaningful challenges are those we struggle with and work on most of our lives. In the work, we make progress. If you find yourself running into a challenge (time after time) and then accepting yourself as you are and giving up the work, you are complacent. Self acceptance isn’t possible from there because you have no integrity.
Live, as you believe. You are worth it. Fill Your Cup.
Energetic mother, I have been thinking about you all day, I was you. I was a protective mom of one toddler age boy, once upon a time. I worried that the forces of the world were going to infect my perfect precious child. I worried about baby talk, gender toys, paint, pesticides, vaccines, racism, sexism, egocentricsm and a dozen other “isms” and then… my boy (or his two brothers that followed after) knocked out their teeth by force. My whole and perfect boys, they broke their bones. They rode bikes with no helmets, no hands, then no feet. The boys have skateboarded off mountains and off the roof. I was called for concussion alerts by the ski patrol, the school nurses and several coaches. I have heard from principles and the police. (“There’s a man on the roof with a rifle!”…”uh, no …there’s a tall boy with a BB gun keeping rabbits out of his mother’s garden”)
So after some years and some tears while mothering I realize there are forces in the world to be concerned about, but there is a bigger force with in each of my sons. The fire and force of a young man’s passion, curiosity and aggressive nature you can guide for a while but with an ever-lightening touch. After babyhood is gone most mothers of boys come around to this: We provide cuddles and calories and cheer loudly from the stands!
Love you my sons and my sister’s out there who are raising young men….
On first glance I thought this article would prove delayed gratification or holding hunger longer helps you make better decisions. It talks about that and goes deeper, it says highly sensitive people with a large and accute appetites make the best decisions. So for our purposes it proves that the detailed body awareness of Pilates helps with decision making. For years I have said that Pilates makes a person sensitive enough to know the difference between hunger and empty, (the nuance of appetite) this article explains why. Thanks Rebecca Clyde for finding it!
CLICK on the title above to read the article!
While teaching a pilates reformer class at 6 am today I heard myself say “If you don’t work the inside, (I was referencing pelvic floor and postural muscles) you can expect less from the outside.” I believe if you don’t have a clear sense of your inner core it is hard to do any core work. In other words, if your deep core isn’t active and alive – the outside is simply a shell, sometimes a misshapen shell.
The same is true for our headspace, if you don’t have a clear sense of your beliefs and values how can you possibly live by them? What does your shell mean and how easily can it be misshapen?
With Fill Your Cup weight loss, appetite is the core. There are hundreds of weight loss plans and formulas, all of them work if you can muster up the self-control to have an appropriate appetite. The reverse is true, none of them work if you can’t.
So, go inside a moment to the dark, deep center of your being? What do you believe about your body? And how do you wear that belief? Remember, that converting to new beliefs is possible if you want to.
Fill Your Cup.
“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” – J.K. Rowling
With almost every weight loss coaching client there is a conversation early in our work about a binge eating situation usually when they have downtime in life. Since I don’t believe in “free foods or “cheat days” to shove their discomfort into I had to direct people to good choices. It is important that the choices are good for them, for their moments where the indulging is eminent and so I ask for a list.
What are 10 things you can do all by yourself to make yourself calm/happy/full/fulfilled?
For me today (it changes often) here’s my list of good choices rather than taking down time to snack:
1) Spend time improving my garden
2) Chopping vegetables to make something yummy, for later
3) Check the Linked In of my cousin who is rebranding herself and make a positive notes in cyber space
4) Listen to my best friends’ incredibly talented daughter’s podcast http://www.rrpod.com/hilarious-online-reviews-out-loud-podcast and laugh till my side aches (hey it’s core work)
5) Put pictures in my children’s photo albums
6) Go for a walk
7) Make a new playlist
8) Clean a drawer with the intention of giving 5 items to goodwill
9) Leave a positive voicemail for a friend
10) Read one of the 4 books my husband is sure I will love! (and I will, I just haven’t made time…)
What are 10 things you can do all by yourself to make yourself calm/happy/full/fulfilled?
Go out there and make good choices! Fill Your Cup….