Once over a decade ago, I was sad. I was maxed out exhausted with little children and I was trying to be a good mother, teacher, laundry manager, PTA activist, family archivist/publicist, a teacher and friend.
It wasn’t Zoloft, Wellbutrin, prayer or meditation that saved me. (not that any of those things are bad) I made a new habit that pulled me out of my sadness.
I decided to evaluate every activity required in life and put them into 3 categories:
In category 1) I found teaching and playing catch in the park, walking with a friend or working in my garden.
In category 2) I found writing, cooking, laundry and putting the kids to sleep.
In category 3) I found cleaning floors, prepping the taxes and meetings.
I decided to outsource or limit with extreme rigor all activities in category 3. Like any habit, the more your practice it the more precise you become at it. After a decade of practice, I’m completely repelled by anything in category 3. I am not afraid of change and that helps me extract myself from situations that qualify as excessively draining. I’m also not a control freak, for example you may clean my floor any way you want to just don’t ask me to take time away from my category one or two commitments for it.
I have more energy and bliss than ever.
Is it realistic? Not all the time, I still have to prepare taxes, and the occasional meeting cannot be avoided. This habit cut some activities that I valued out of my life, but I adjusted and filled my life with experiences I also value and inspire me. My energy level is high and my love of life is even higher. So the habit is worth it to me.
In Fill Your Cup I repeat, eat only what feels sustaining – leave out the junk. My life choices align in similar principle. Bring commitments to your life that inspire you, leave out the junk and you will live a blissful, inspired life.