For Mother’s of Boys

Energetic mother, I have been thinking about you all day, I was you. I was a protective mom of one toddler age boy, once upon a time. I worried that the forces of the world were going to infect my perfect precious child. I worried about baby talk, gender toys, paint, pesticides, vaccines, racism, sexism, egocentricsm and a dozen other “isms” and then… my boy (or his two brothers that followed after) knocked out their teeth by force. My whole and perfect boys, they broke their bones. They rode bikes with no helmets, no hands, then no feet. The boys have skateboarded off mountains and off the roof.   I was called for concussion alerts by the ski patrol, the school nurses and several coaches. I have heard from principles and the police. (“There’s a man on the roof with a rifle!”…”uh, no …there’s a tall boy with a BB gun keeping rabbits out of his mother’s garden”)

So after some years and some tears while mothering I realize there are forces in the world to be concerned about, but there is a bigger force with in each of my sons. The fire and force of a young man’s passion, curiosity and aggressive nature you can guide for a while but with an ever-lightening touch.   After babyhood is gone most mothers of boys come around to this: We provide cuddles and calories and cheer loudly from the stands!

Love you my sons and my sister’s out there who are raising young men….

Julie and the boys2014

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Hunger Is Associated with Advantageous Decision Making: SEE STUDY HERE…

On first glance I thought this article would prove delayed gratification or holding hunger longer helps you make better decisions.  It talks about that and goes deeper, it says highly sensitive people with a large and accute appetites make the best decisions.  So for our purposes it proves that the detailed body awareness of Pilates helps with decision making.  For years I have said that Pilates makes a person sensitive enough to know the difference between hunger and empty, (the nuance of appetite)  this article explains why.  Thanks Rebecca Clyde for finding it!

Hunger Is Associated with Advantageous Decision Making

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Your inside connections are infinitely more important than your outside connections.

While teaching a pilates reformer class at 6 am today I heard myself say  “If you don’t work the inside, (I was referencing pelvic floor and postural muscles) you can expect less from the outside.”  I believe if you don’t have a clear sense of your inner core it is hard to do any core work. In other words, if your deep core isn’t active and alive – the outside is simply a shell, sometimes a misshapen shell.

The same is true for our headspace, if you don’t have a clear sense of your beliefs and values how can you possibly live by them? What does your shell mean and how easily can it be misshapen?

With Fill Your Cup weight loss, appetite is the core. There are hundreds of weight loss plans and formulas, all of them work if you can muster up the self-control to have an appropriate appetite. The reverse is true, none of them work if you can’t.

So, go inside a moment to the dark, deep center of your being? What do you believe about your body? And how do you wear that belief? Remember, that converting to new beliefs is possible if you want to.

Fill Your Cup.

10 GOOD Choices on the ready!!

“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”   – J.K. Rowling

With almost every weight loss coaching client there is a conversation early in our work about a binge eating situation usually when they have downtime in life.   Since I don’t believe in “free foods or “cheat days” to shove their discomfort into I had to direct people to good choices.  It is important that the choices are good for them, for their moments where the indulging is eminent and so I ask for a list.

What are 10 things you can do all by yourself to make yourself calm/happy/full/fulfilled?

For me today (it changes often) here’s my list of good choices rather than taking down time to snack:

1)   Spend time improving my garden

2)   Chopping vegetables to make something yummy, for later

3)   Check the Linked In of my cousin who is rebranding herself and make a positive notes in cyber space

4)  Listen to my best friends’ incredibly talented daughter’s  podcast http://www.rrpod.com/hilarious-online-reviews-out-loud-podcast and laugh till my side aches (hey it’s core work)

5)   Put pictures in my children’s photo albums

6)   Go for a walk

7)   Make a new playlist

8)   Clean a drawer with the intention of giving 5 items to goodwill

9)   Leave a positive voicemail for a friend

10)  Read one of the 4 books my husband is sure I will love!  (and I will, I just haven’t made time…)

 What are 10 things you can do all by yourself to make yourself calm/happy/full/fulfilled?

Go out there and make good choices! Fill Your Cup….

Squash Blossom Salad Recipe

This recipe idea was born from scanning from several internet sites that came up on my smart phone while I was waiting with Andy at the DMV for our truck title paperwork.   Normally when I’m waiting in lines in the every-day-adult-job-kind-of-way, I practice pelvic floor work.   After all, no one can tell what you are doing. But since I was with Andy all weekend with no kids, I thought “that” was covered so I started asking my smart phone about squash blossoms. We have a raised vegetable garden in Park City that is growing the most incredible blossoms and I couldn’t remember if they were edible or not.

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I found that they are edible! So taking some suggestions from Google and then add the Julie-flavors you will recognize from my twitter feed as my favorite ingredients avocado, honey, sweet vinegar, and seeds, I came up with this:

Ingredients:

  • Butter lettuce,
  • A sliced avocado,
  • Squash blossoms
  • Sesame seeds
  • Prosciutto
  • Dressing: any sweet vinegar, light virgin olive oil, sea salt and orange and lemon zest whisked with a half-teaspoon of brown mustard.
  •  Stuffing for blossoms: plain goat cheese blended with honey

I tossed the butter lettuce, a sliced avocado, prosciutto, with dressing whisked from a honey vinegar (I found it at a specialty market in Salt Lake City called Caputos.) olive oil, sea salt, a bit of mustard, orange and lemon zest.  Then scattered the stuffed squash blossoms and a few sesame seeds for texture – and a bit more protein – over the top. It was a nutty, earthy, savory, sweet, light and healthy cup.

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Vacation Core from your Treadmill (Advanced)

Traveling can be difficult, schedule a little time each day for your body maintainence.   A little core work and a little cardio each day can keep your energy level high and protect your body from injury.

Advanced Pilates students who have good midback and shoulder strength can try this:

Click here for core work from a treadmill > Treadmill to Obliques

midback from treadmill Treadmill Core

Pain in the neck??

One of my favorite students came into the mat class today and told me of her neck pain.  I replied, “The simple solution to a pain in the neck is to keep your chin up”  “how metaphorical!” another student replied.

It is bio mechanically sound, if you keep your head balanced on top of your shoulders, your neck muscles won’t fatigue as quickly.

It’s also true, that if we bring our perspective on life up a notch, lots of pain will dissipate.

Just a few hours later I was speaking to my son about his last days of Biology in summer school.   His study plan for the final had none of the skills I hoped he’d demonstrate.  My chin sank, my shoulders hunched in frustration and then my neck hurt.  I scolded and scoffed, and then my stomach hurt.  It took about 10 minutes and I realized I could choose to look up.  I could elect to elevate my headspace.   I don’t really know all he’s done in preparation since he’s at school for 5-7 hours a day and spends half his free time at his dad’s house, I reasoned.  More importantly if your own mother looses faith in you, that’s more of an issue with the faith of the mother.  Well, since I am she, I can affect that piece a great deal.

I looked up.

My neck released.  Jared and I printed notes from the website he needed and made a plan for organization.

All in one magical day… Neck pain and the metaphor that fixes it came into consciousness.

Look up!  (I’m high — in the tree)  From Tree Hammock

 

Quick Cup-size Recipe with Kale

It was the last day I could use the Kale I bought at the Farmers Market last weekend.  It had started to wilt in the crisper, I took the small bunch of Kale rinsed it in the sink and chopped the kale with my kitchen scissors, I added half of a red onion diced and 3 cloves of fresh garlic.  I added a splash of water and olive oil to attempt a cross between steam and sauté for the mix.  When the color popped on the Kale and it was deep green I put it into the cup then using the leftover olive oil in the skillet I scrambled an egg for protein on top of my semi-salad-sauté with a shake of garlic salt.  It took less than 10 min to make!photo-blog

Small Bunch of Kale

Half red onion diced

1 TBS Minced garlic

One Scrambled Egg

Dash of Garlic Salt on top!